Dealing With Temper Tantrums
We all have heard of the tantrums that come with the terrible two’s. They don’t always end there. Here are some of our tips for Dealing With Temper Tantrums in your kids. As the parent, it can be very tough and even embarrassing when your child just doesn’t understand and continues to push buttons. Learning how to deal with these situations as quickly as possible will help you be able to develop a healthier relationship with your child.
DEALING WITH TEMPER TANTRUMS
Remove Yourself From The Situation: Sometimes the parent actually exasperates the situation. If you are at home, and not out in public this is a good solution. Leaving the child and letting them calm down without an audience by you may show them that the tantrum is not going to get their way.
Don’t Let Them Win: This is especially important if they are throwing a tantrum about something they want. You cannot let them win. Stand your ground and don’t allow them to get what they want.
Discipline Appropriately: If the tantrum is over a TV show, toy or food, make sure that you hold them accountable appropriately. That means removing whatever they are fighting about.
Show Them Love: Hug them, pick them up and sooth them, or even rock them like they are a baby again. Some tantrums come from being overly tired or feeling out of sorts. Having the comfort of hearing your words of love, receiving your hug, or even the song you sang to them as an infant can help them and you get through a tantrum with ease.
Listen To Them: Stop and let them talk. It may have to wait until after the tantrum, but sometimes your kids are just like you. They get their feelings hurt. They feel overwhelmed. They may even feel rejected or unloved. Children, especially in the early years, go through a lot of emotional changes. This can be a difficult thing to navigate, and sometimes they just need their mom or dad to listen to them.
Tantrums do not have to end in a bad way. Dealing with temper tantrums can be easy to do when you stop and evaluate the situation. Sometimes it means removing yourself so you don’t react in anger. Other times it means showing them extra love and understanding. Whatever the case, these tips are sure to help your child feel better.
Nice summary! Removing yourself is sooo important and not always easy. In my book “That’s Not My Kid: One Simple Step To Stop Temper tantrums.” I talk about VALIDATING your child’s wish. When your child knows they are being heard they will be more willing to hear you. This does not mean giving in..just acknowledging the request.